2008 Woodie Awards
Melody Explains It All
Melody Regino '08
Issue date: 11/17/06 Section: Features
We all have secret lives. There exist the closet nerds and the Facebook phantoms, not to mention the ones who claim to despise Laguna Beach, but can quote every prom episode. You don't really know someone until you find out what their guilty pleasures are, but at times they might be better left in the dark. Some are as innocent as loving Bob Barker, but finding out someone is a kleptomaniac can cause a rift in the relationship. For instance, what do you do when your North Face book bag (once affectionately known as "Hot Shot") appears in your neighbor's living room, jam-packed with books, and looking quite lived in? These are the secrets that might need to be left alone, but offer valuable lessons.
How well do you really know someone? You might live with a person and only know the surface of their so-called life. They might have comical quirks that make them who they are, or they could possess life-changing idiosyncrasies. Understanding a person fully means appreciating their every facet: their sensitivities, their superstitions, and their habits. These little tidbits of a person can make or break a relationship. A person will either love you and all that comes with you, or the littlest annoyance will send them packing.
When does that quality become a secret? It could be a lifestyle, an addiction, or a compulsion. Returning to the backpack burglary, now that we know our neighbors have semi-sticky fingers, how do we respond? Do you leave secrets in the closet where they belong or do you rip the door open and expose the truth? How I would have loved to exclaim, "Hot Shot! Is that you?" Then again I must live next to these people for quite some time. They are sweet people, who have respectful and loyal exteriors; it's behind that door that lies a different side.
As we choose our partners and friends we must be cautious of what is behind those doors, all the while considering what we ourselves are hiding. We all conceal something about ourselves in order to keep the outside world guessing. What is the use of revealing all, when the beauty of meeting new people and creating stronger relationships brings us closer to the core of a person?
Hide what you will, but when a person does get more intimate with you and discovers your flaws, make sure they aren't scared for their well-being. Furthermore, as you start to delve into your new relationship with someone and his or her enigmas start peeking through, you need to fully accept him or her for the wonderful, crazy person he or she is or just walk away from it. Harping on peculiarities can get frustrating, so deal with a person--the whole person-because at the end of the day you have yours, they have theirs, and together you are both out of your minds.
How well do you really know someone? You might live with a person and only know the surface of their so-called life. They might have comical quirks that make them who they are, or they could possess life-changing idiosyncrasies. Understanding a person fully means appreciating their every facet: their sensitivities, their superstitions, and their habits. These little tidbits of a person can make or break a relationship. A person will either love you and all that comes with you, or the littlest annoyance will send them packing.
When does that quality become a secret? It could be a lifestyle, an addiction, or a compulsion. Returning to the backpack burglary, now that we know our neighbors have semi-sticky fingers, how do we respond? Do you leave secrets in the closet where they belong or do you rip the door open and expose the truth? How I would have loved to exclaim, "Hot Shot! Is that you?" Then again I must live next to these people for quite some time. They are sweet people, who have respectful and loyal exteriors; it's behind that door that lies a different side.
As we choose our partners and friends we must be cautious of what is behind those doors, all the while considering what we ourselves are hiding. We all conceal something about ourselves in order to keep the outside world guessing. What is the use of revealing all, when the beauty of meeting new people and creating stronger relationships brings us closer to the core of a person?
Hide what you will, but when a person does get more intimate with you and discovers your flaws, make sure they aren't scared for their well-being. Furthermore, as you start to delve into your new relationship with someone and his or her enigmas start peeking through, you need to fully accept him or her for the wonderful, crazy person he or she is or just walk away from it. Harping on peculiarities can get frustrating, so deal with a person--the whole person-because at the end of the day you have yours, they have theirs, and together you are both out of your minds.
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